Guest post by Lisa Asbell
After two very long years of being a one car family, we are once again a two-car family! I am beyond grateful that I finally have the freedom to take my boys to play-dates, go to the library, just get out of the house because we feel like it. I can go to Women’s Bible study again! I can grocery shop during the day! A whole new world has opened up to me!
As difficult as this season has been, I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I’ve learned some some pretty valuable things along the way:
If I have all that I need, but not all that I want, I have more than enough.
This was, and continues to be a tough lesson. It’s so easy to get jealous when I see others who have the things that I want. But, as I was reminded by a friend, if we have all of our needs met, we are doing a lot better than most of the world. Which brings me to my next point.
“There is something about everything that you can be glad about, if you keep hunting long enough to find it.” ~ Pollyanna (Eleanor H. Porter)
At first it was so easy to think, “Woe is me. I’m stuck at home all day with two rambunctious boys.” But no matter what difficulty I am going through, there is always something to be grateful for.
I recalled a tale Pollyanna told of the day that the missionary barrels contained crutches instead of the doll she had been hoping for. Pollyanna’s wise father saw the perfect opportunity to teach his young daughter how to have an attitude of gratitude and so he made up a game for them to play. “Find something about everything that you can be glad about.” In the end Pollyanna decided that she could be glad that at least she didn’t have didn’t have to use the crutches!
When I started to focus on everything I could be glad about in this situation, I realized there was quite a bit!
- Our family owned a car. My husband could get to work, and we could run errands and do fun things with family during the evening and the weekend.
- I was able to stay home with my boys. We couldn’t afford a second car, but we COULD afford for me to stay home with our boys. What a blessing!
- We had a park and swimming pool right across the street.
- We had a HUGE homeschool/play room to spread out in.
- We had friends who loved us. Which brings me to the next thing I learned.
It’s ok to accept help.
I had lots of friends offer to come pick us up to go do things. At first I felt shy about it as I didn’t want to impose, but the hard ugly truth was that I was battling pride. I loved helping others, but I felt very uncomfortable needing and accepting help from others.
Finally, and thankfully, I swallowed my pride and I started saying yes.
An amazing thing happened, my relationships with these special mom friends grew in a way they probably wouldn’t have if I had the freedom of my own transportation. I am so grateful to the sweet friends who came and rescued us!
We all need each other.
This season has taught me a new appreciation for how much we need each other. No one gets by in this world without a little help. We can’t fix the problems of the whole world, but sometimes we can make one person’s life a ton better just by doing something simple like giving them a ride to the zoo!
It’s ok to let others see your mess.
Since I couldn’t get out much to see other people, I started inviting people to my house. I try hard to keep my home clean and organized, but when you have two small boys, and you’re a closeted hoarder, it’s no easy task. In order to have people over on an even semi-regular basis, I had to let people see my mess.
And I learned that an amazing thing happens when you do that; people open up and let you see their mess too! And when that happens, you become real friends. The kind of friends you can call when your life is falling apart. I am blessed to have friends like that. If I wasn’t without a car for two years, though, who knows if that would be the case.
Are you going through a difficult season? Feeling like throwing yourself a pity party? I understand! Try taking a step back, get a bird’s eye view of your situation and ask God what He wants to teach you in this valley. Times of great trials can also be times of great growth, if we let them.
Lisa is the wife of Robert and homeschooling boymom to Noah (5) and Micah (2). She loves Jesus, good coffee, cooking, crafting, reading, spending time with family and friends, blessing others, and wisely stewarding her home. The last part is still a work in progress! She has been a long time reader of Simple Saving Savvy, and is super excited for the opportunity to contribute to the blog and join all of the other awesome readers on a journey toward wise stewardship!